Showing Up. Being Seen. Standing Out.
It’s taken me 40+ years to finally look & feel more me than I’ve ever done. Not surprising that it began when I stopped ignoring the fundamental aspects of what makes me me!
Professionally, I help people put core values at the heart of everything they do and can support you to find your own ways of showing up, being seen and standing out. I help build location independent communities for women all over the world and I also run a lifestyle blog with my partner on the realities of coming out in later life. If you’d like to work with me on a “Pay What It’s Worth To You” basis, you can do that here.
How many folk in your acquaintance do you know who work for themselves? Or have a side gig they're hoping may one day support them more fully? How many of these folk do you see regularly promoting themselves and what they do? Many of my circle online do their own...read more
As women we have a unique ability to empower others, nurture others and support others – we excel at being everyone else's biggest cheerleader. Except our own. There are highly destructive yet often-hidden patterns that while not unique to women seem to be most common...read more
There's a dichotomy between planning and going with the flow...after all, if you plan too rigidly, you leave no space for the 'lucky' coincidences and random occurrences that often move you forward, making you wonder why you bother to plan at all. I never really...read more
"Don't put all your eggs in one basket" This is what my Mum used to say to me about all sorts of things, and especially about my then-boyfriend, who became my husband, who is now my ex-husband. Given the life changes I've made over the past few years, she...read more
After over a decade of blogging – on my own websites and as a guest and paid blogger on others – I'm still a MASSIVE fan of blogging. But with millions of blogs now littering the internet, gone are the days when you could start a blog as a really effective way of...read more
If you search for resources on core values and how to figure out what your core values are, there's a pretty haphazard approach that usually encourages a lot of 'feeling'...my own ebook on Why Values Matter includes a section on how to determine your top 3-4 core...read more
Showing Up Last weekend I went to Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic workshop in London. I’d bought tickets as a birthday present for my partner, thinking “This probably won’t be hugely relevant to me, I already write/create and don’t have a problem doing that”. So we...read more
How does such a seemingly 'touchy feely' concept such as core values play out in the business world? Are core values still relevant? Useful? Advantageous? Profitable? They can be all of those things and more... A business, big or small, built upon a guiding set of...read more
Back in 1999 – a year before I’d graduated from the University of Warwick – I landed a coveted job with the world’s biggest consulting company, had a golden handshake of £10,000 and agreed a start date that gave me 18 months to get my wanderlust and travel adventures...read more
How much stuff should I share about myself? Surely people won't be interested in that? Isn't that over-sharing? Isn't that too personal? Is there such a thing as sharing too much online, especially if you're running a business and wanting to attract customers and...read more
There's an unspoken question I sense at times when I tell people I'm exploring my adoption: "Why would you want to do that? Isn't it better to leave the past in the past? Why drudge up stuff from the past, especially if it's not really affecting you*?" One of the most...read more
When asked why I home educate my children, one of my primary responses is because I believe education should be designed to prepare children to be functioning, capable, adaptable and happy people in the environment that they live in and, perhaps more importantly, the...read more
One of the main events of a rather eventful 18 months was starting a new same-sex relationship. I am pretty sure that people (read: family and friends!) have questions... Have you always been gay? Why get married and have children? Why haven't you done anything...read more
Clients often ask me how they can set themselves apart and stand out when they start (or have been running) their own business. In a glut of thousands of other writers, coaches, bloggers, developers, photographers, inventors, designers, illustrators, consultants,...read more
Last year I discovered the joys of a smart home...no, not the minimalist, uncluttered, sleek living space I'd like to live in, it's a home with 'connected' gadgets. I'm a gadget freak and proud ✌? It all began with my beloved Alexa, Amazon's voice-activated home...read more
2017. What a year! It seems to have been rather momentous for many, individually and globally, in all sorts of ways. And for me too, this has been a pivotal year... I turned 40. I got divorced. I fell in love again (and came out in the process!). I began to explore...read more
I suspect this post will be triggering for some. I suspect this post will cause people to judge me (negatively). I suspect this post will be 'proof' to some that I'm the hard, cold, selfish person they think I am. But, never one to shy away from being direct and...read more
My therapist said an interesting thing to me this week, after we spent most of the session talking about my need for rules on how to just 'be'*. She said: "It seems like you're moving to a place of just being more authentically and more vulnerably you". Ugh. [* It's...read more
When you start to explore something that you've been in denial about your entire life, two life-changing things can happen*: The stories and narratives you have always told yourself get blown out of the water. You realise that who you think you are, i.e. some of the...read more
It's a really disconcerting feeling when all that you thought you were – who you think you are – turns out to be some kind of construct you built to keep yourself safe after experiencing a trauma in childhood (or in my case babyhood). In her books about adoption* –...read more