How much stuff should I share about myself? Surely people won’t be interested in that? Isn’t that over-sharing? Isn’t that too personal?

Is there such a thing as sharing too much online, especially if you’re running a business and wanting to attract customers and clients?

My personal stuff informs my professional stuff…

I’m a person. People have stuff…from childhood, from adulthood, from being alive! Your stuff drives how you behave, who you are and how you react and respond to almost every situation, in almost every relationship you have – personal or professional. Your stuff informs your work. If you’re lucky and smart, it can help and improve your work too.

I know exploring my own stuff has made me far better at what I do – because I’ve got better at being able to see my own stuff, to make sense of it and to explain it to others, I’m also far better at seeing other people’s stuff, making sense of it and explaining it back to them too when they don’t/can’t.

The more I work on myself, the better I am for the people I work with. They get a more real me, a more authentic me, a more true me, without the facades or the defence mechanisms. Another’s vulnerability allows your vulnerability; me being me gives permission for you to be you (not that it’s needed, of course).

My personal growth impacts my professional growth, which in turn impacts your growth, personal and professional. Why wouldn’t I want to pursue that?

But why share it out loud?

Good question and it’s something I was challenged on last week when Becky shared one of my blog posts. Someone asked “But why share it all over Facebook?” And why indeed?

There were some really excellent responses to the original question which can largely be summed up by this: Sharing your experience is almost always going to be useful to at least one other person on this planet. And that’s got to be worth it.

If sharing my adoption journey helps to change the general societal perception that adoption is an all-round positive experience with no negatives at all, then that’s good. If sharing my adoption journey helps one fellow adoptee realise that what they’re experiencing is not unique and they’re not all alone in it, then that’s just as good. If sharing my coming out experience helps others feel like it’s worth coming out too, then that’s good too. And so it goes…

Our journeys are unique and can be lonely places; if finding out and knowing that others are on a similar path and feeling similar things helps someone feel less isolated, then sharing my stuff out loud is worth the risk of being criticised for doing so.

The old adage, “People work with and buy from people they know, like and trust” holds true more than ever.

And at a time when we’re crying out for more integrity, railing against outdated and obsolete facades and structures, and seeking ever more authentic relationships (professionally and personally), how can making things more personal be a bad thing?